Item Item: - Bender to Kreider

Response, Bender to Carl Kreider: [letter that offers much insight into how Bender thought when faced with practical questions of life] that Kreider probably had over-interpreted a question in the fellowship application about intention to marry; as to whether Kreider should bring a wife to Europe, Bender could see both pro and con; pretty firm advice not to bring her and marry before about March because of the European academic schedule, wretchedness of ocean travel and British weather in winter could make Evelyn sick and spoil the honeymoon, etc.; interesting remarks perhaps showing a strong assumption that the bride should reshape herself around the husband’s plan and career; on what Bender had advised to John C. Wenger [J. C. Wenger] about bringing a bride to Europe.